How many times have you thought, “I’d really love to take this trip right now, but I have work, I can’t afford it.”
Or, “I’d like to have a child, but my life is too messy right now, I wouldn’t know how to handle it.”
When is the right time?
When does that mysterious alignment of planets, events, things, and people happen, where everything is in its place and the only choice you have to make is handed to you by what we might call fate, ready to be seized?
Does such a moment exist?
A moment where we have the clarity to see that everything is perfect, that it is THE moment, and that only then should we make the choice we need to make: the trip, the children, changing jobs, changing lives, moving away, traveling, getting lost, starting over from scratch.
I waited for many things in my life. I too waited for there to be a green light in front of the choices I wanted to make, but sometimes that green light never came.
Just like with having children, I decided to have them even though I didn’t feel ready, even though life wasn’t as it was supposed to be, even though there was something that could have been done better.
Looking back, I think: I did the right thing.
The point is that there are two problems behind waiting.
The first is that it’s not possible for there to be a green light.
Life doesn’t make room for you; you make room for it.
The world doesn’t adapt, it doesn’t know what you want. The world around you evolves in ways you cannot predict or imagine.
So that astral conjunction you desire so much? Forget about it. It will never come.
It will always be an imperfect choice, with an imperfect outcome, and yet still beautiful.
The second point is that maybe there are cases where the world does prepare itself for you.
Where the clearing’s leaves part to let you through
In those moments, in the frenzy of today’s world, would we even be capable of seeing such a miracle?
Or would our eyes quickly pass over those displaced leaves, ignoring them? Labeling them as something ordinary, when instead they were part of an immense design that we were incapable of seeing.
So when is the right time?
In the end, I think that if you’re asking yourself the question, maybe that is already the right time.
Because ten years ago you wouldn’t even have asked yourself.
It wasn’t on your radar.
But now it is.
Maybe you won’t be ready, maybe something will be missing, maybe you’ll make a mistake, but the point is that now you have a doubt you didn’t have before.
And that doubt is the first spark, the first desire that writes in your heart what you want to do.
You can ignore it and think that you need a whole world around you to justify it, but in reality that small glimmer, that doubt, so frightening and unfailingly beautiful, is enough to justify it.
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